About The Duff

Have you ever visited an IVF forum in the hope of some information or reassurance, only to come away feeling even more confused and emotional? And then a few days later, you find yourself doing the exact same thing?

After a few weeks of this insanity, you promise yourself you’ll stop. But you can’t help yourself, so you convert your swear jar into a “spending time on IVF forums” jar – but that clearly doesn’t have the intended effect because you manage to donate a fortune to charity by the end of day #1. Sound familiar?

"Swear jar"

OK, maybe you’re not quite as crazy and lacking in willpower as I am.

Even so, if you’re currently starting or undergoing IVF treatment, I bet you’ve done your fair share of browsing desperately for answers – either because the doctors spoke gobbledygook or you felt too emotional at the time to ask all the questions you wanted to. And hours later, you realise you’re still at your desk pretending to work while everyone else has left and your cat waits impatiently at home for dinner. 

I don’t work in an office and I don’t have a cat, but the rest of it was pretty much my life for a good few years. I was desperate to understand the whys, whats, hows, whens and wheres of the IVF process – partly because I’m a control freak, but mainly so that I could understand what was going on and confidently challenge doctors if I felt unsure about any treatment they were proposing. But there just weren’t any definitive sources that could explain everything to me in plain English – especially for people who live in the UK.  

And lots more questions like that.

IVF book – doesn't exist anywhere

So in my spare time, I decided to do the research myself. I scoured medical journals, cobbled together incomplete information from various websites, spoke to doctors and specialists (to make sure I had my facts straight) and published my findings here, on The Duff.

IVF takes over enough of your life as it is: you shouldn’t have to spend any remaining hours scouring through 400 tabs on your browser, trying to make head or tail of it all. 

I have a huge list of articles that I plan to write over the next few months, and I’ll add them to the site as soon as they’re ready. If there’s anything you’d like to read about in particular, please let me know by emailing me at mish@theduff.co.uk.

Otherwise, head over to the Articles page for a full list of everything that’s on the site so far.

But before you go… get this free downloadable guide! “Questions to ask your doctor at every stage of IVF treatment”

This guide contains questions that will help you understand the process better, get the answers you deserve, and feel more in control of the situation (and your rights as a patient).

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Good luck, and happy reading!

Mish

Mish

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